Key Take aways:
- Understanding what they're capable of knowing, what they can understand, and choosing words that meet them where they are will help sooth problems and smooth out misunderstandings.
- Keep in mind, asking a child if they want to go to the bathroom will 100% of the time results in a "no." And shit, now you have a power struggle.
- Instead, asking things like "Do you want to go to the bathroom before we put on our clothes for the day or after?" gives them autonomy and dignity, while also doing what you want. Bam! That's some parenting win right there.
Okay, it’s finally happening. Diaper duty has run its course and your child is ready to potty train. This is a momentous time for both you and your child, and yet almost every personal parent account we have found started with the parent admitting they were dreading the process. To unload why many of us dread this process is for a different article, so let’s cut to the chase and help you figure out how to make this process exciting and awesome for the both of you!
All the resources say that it is important to stay very positive through the potty training process. Even when they pee on the houseplant or adamantly refuse to use the potty before leaving the house, your words need to remain upbeat. That does not mean you relinquish control and let them have their way, but it does mean you keep a positive spin on things. And, when they do something great, even a small action like flushing the toilet or washing their hands, make sure to you meet these actions with celebratory words of encouragement. So, ready to see what magical phrases you want to keep on hand during potty learning? Read on, friend.
Scripts for Starting Out
Okay, it’s finally happening. All the resources say that it is important to stay very positive through the potty training process. Yet almost every personal parent account I found started with the parent admitting they were dreading the process. So, we’ve got very specific scripts to help you fake it.
We recommend wrapping your head around this now: accidents will happen, and they will never happen at a good time. You may want to yell and stomp your feet when there is a mishap, but this is where you are going to need incredible self-control and some good scripts to lean on. After all, your job is to remain upbeat, positive, encouraging, and committed to seeing the process through with your child.
Oh, and a note about accidents - most experts don't consider a child to have an accident when you are actively potty training because wet or soiled undies is part of the learning process. We usually consider a child to have accidents after they have been fully trained for a few weeks to months and beyond.
What’s the right amount of praise when a child DOES successfully use the potty? They haven’t saved the planet, but hey, baby steps.
Scripts for weening from rewards
If you chose to use a sticker chart or small candies to get your child using the potty, you may be worried about removing that piece of your happy, diaper-free life. We got you.